The dawn of a new year always brings much excitement, the hashtag #newyearnewme dominated my gram for several weeks. And yet, somehow, we have already stumbled upon February. The fireworks have stopped, the holiday has ended, and the tan is well and truly fading.
In order to seize this new year; to begin anew, we must be ready to make changes to our lives that are brave and courageous and have a positive impact on our well being and the well being of those around us. It is now, as a new year folds out in front of us, that we must take stock of the year that was. We must reflect, honesty and bravely. We must own the story that was our 2018. We must acknowledge the tricky parts of last year with kindness and with the absence of shame. With reflection comes clarity. And with clarity comes conviction. This conviction will shape our 2019 with goals that reflect our truth. If we can stand in our truth, if we can own the tricky parts of our life bravely, we can make them our source of strength moving into 2019. Brene Brown teaches us that
“You can either walk inside your story and own it, or you can stand outside of your story and hustle for your worthiness.”
Standing in your truth, or walking inside your own story, could look like many different things. It could be consciously practising gratitude. It could be something as simple as walking everyday, no excuses, to boost your own hauora. Or it could be coming to terms with grief or loss. It could be changing your mindset regarding failure. It could be learning to be kind to yourself when you face a setback. It could be chasing professional development in your work or taking a leap with a relationship. It could be taking the plunge and deciding to up and move. It could be saying no more often, so that you have time for yourself.
Standing in your truth can be whatever you deem it to be, whatever matters to you right now, lean into it, don’t minimise it because life gets busy around you. Standing in YOUR truth is not easy. It is a daily choice, and it starts with a very gentle, very kind self reflection.
So in the spirit of being brave and honest, I will kick us off. I spent 2017 and 2018 chasing perfection in my work. I do not regret this time spent and I am so proud of the work I do. Being a teacher is one of my greatest joys, I know that I’m one of the lucky ones, who can genuinely say that I go to work every day feeling pumped to be there. But upon reflection, I can now see that I wasn’t practising balance. This year, I want to find a better work-life balance. I am hoping that this balance will give me the space to commit time to the important relationships in my life. I’m not sure what success looks like yet, and I can almost guarantee that I will slip back into my habit of chasing perfection, but I intend to keep myself honest, to keep standing in my truth no matter how tricky it may be.
My hope, is that this blog will spark a truth that you want stand in, if you don’t already have one. Then I encourage you to be brave, to share your truth. The point of this is not to shine a spotlight on your truth, it is to show that we are not alone in our journey.
Kendyl is Seed Waikato's Head of Learning and Development.